Living in a big city puts you in a loop of things you must do. By waking up in the morning, having breakfast, running to work, commuting by public transportation, lunch, work, dinner, gym, or other activities. Go back home, shower, sleep, and most of the time we do it on our phones. And then repeat. On your weekends, you try to do work or things that you haven’t done during the week. Most of the time is your personal project.

What is me-time?

I’m mostly thinking of how you spend quality time with yourself. How much are you in your own body? Do you run for each opportunity to get outside and socialize, or do you choose what’s actually good for your body – for you? How much time do you spend searching for yourself? Your likes and your dislikes, your habits, your personal observations? Do you spend time studying yourself?

From here, I ask another question: whether it is selfish to have me-time when you want to know yourself. To know yourself not on a materialistic basis, what you like to eat, wear, movies, music, etc but mostly from inside. How do you connect with your ancestors, your traditions, your beliefs, your connection with nature, and your connection with other beings? How do you go deeper into yourself? Do you pay attention to consumption not only of food but also of media, music, movies, people, and surroundings?

I am asking these questions because I noticed even from my side that we sacrifice our me-time for something loud, meaning things that sometimes are more rational than actually what we feel inside.

I personally think Me-time is necessary for everyone’s life. That’s how you start to build yourself. It’s a process of going from outside into within yourself. We sometimes have a fear that something is wrong when we have too much personal time for ourselves, or when we withdraw from social gatherings and social media, when we give ourselves a break and go back to our inner self.

What are the methods to go within?

What helps me to slow down is to take some days off from work, or just when I have days off in a row, I isolate myself, meaning I do things for myself. I create a routine that allows me to be productive physically and mentally. I allow myself to sleep without blaming that I did something wrong. I take care of my house, usually, I clean it and refresh all my shelves and corners. I either detox with healthy varieties of meals and juices, or I make sure I cook more at home. I try to take care of my body by mindful showers and baths with aroma oils and massaging my body with essential oils. I journal. I work on personal projects. I exercise by doing yoga, dancing, or running.